http://www.vouchon.com/tag/love/ http://www.vouchon.com/post/not-doing-something-like-that/ 3 weeks? I'm the first post-er to say huh? Crazy would be a good description for someone getting engaged after 3 weeks. The post about the guy getting married within a month and engaged after 5 days - an exception. I realize that when people get older the courtship process accelerates like kobe bryant in the lane of a raptors game, but 3 weeks? Crazy would be a good description, perhaps crazy in love, but still crazy. Might as well go for an arranged marriage if the couples are that desperate for companionship. Ok, in all fairness, if you want to make an assessment (and keep it to yourself) look at your friends age, history, and mentality. Recent break-up? Highly susceptible to infatuation? 20? Now once you come to an assessment, it is your duty as a friend to keep it to yourself and only subtly hint or ask questions if necessary. Let your friend make her own decisions, even if you feel she's going to get screwed (unless he's abusive or sleeps around - and she's not into that stuff). Some people learn that way and all you can do is be supportive while your friends grow. Im not saying to sell-out and sell an opinion that is not yours as that is deceiving. Be diplomatic in your decision-making (don't be jealous, or whatever self-interested reasons may exist) and be diplomatic in what you say. The last thing you want to happen is it not to go through because you decided to call a shot (ie. saying that she's terribly wrong and to 'trust you'). lakers08 2007-01-26T19:44:53Z http://www.vouchon.com/post/following-your-heart/ I can vouchon following your heart. I just saw pursuit of happyness last night and i have to agree with will smith when he told his son don't ever let anyone tell you not to follow your dream. If your friend's heart says the time is right and don't let this opportunity pass by then she should follow her heart. Judging by the fact she doesn't make those rash decisions that often, she must be in love and have found someone very great, and so i wish her the best of luck :) memeplexes 2007-01-06T12:51:35Z http://www.vouchon.com/post/someone-getting-engaged-after-3-weeks/ From everyone's experience marriage just about always doesn't work out. Almost half of all marriages end in divorce in our country today. It's the live for the momment mentallity and if it isn't working out to suit me just right then to hell with it I quit. It has nothing to do with how long you know someone, sure it may make it harder at times, but this doesn't make her decision irrational or bad. I doesn't matter if she knew the guy 2 hours or 20 years, if the commitment is there it will work, if it ain't it won't. But I can tell you one thing, if you were a true friend you wouldn't be judging her decisions as either rational or irrational you would be happy. Why? because she is and if it doesn't work and the first thing you say is I told you so you should have your ass kicked (repeatedly). One more piece of advice for your friend:Don't worry about what other people think, they don't do it very often! estewart 2007-01-06T09:49:36Z http://www.vouchon.com/post/is-someone-crazey-after-getting-engaged-after-3-weeks/ I can vouchon getting engaged after knowing someone for only 3 weeks. My only question is what took her so long? Let me explain!When I was 22 a friend and I were traveling down a country road one night and a lady friend of his passed by and we turned around and followed her home. We all sat out on the back porch and sipped long island iced tea and just had a great time. The next day his friend came by where I worked to see me and we talked and for the next few nights (five to be exact) we messed around after work. Let me tell you something just clicked. Sure we had fun but it was more than that. On the fifth night we started talking about what we wanted in the future and I casually mentioned that I wanted to marry someone just like her. She very bluntly said, "If your asking the answer is yes." 28 days later were were standing in front of the preacher saying our "I do's". People that we work with actually took bets on how long we would be married and I don't think any of them guessed over 5 years. 13 Years later we are happily married and I love her more now that the day we met. We have 2 beautiful children and life is just great. And by the way many of the folks that made those bets have since divorced some after several years of marriage. Sure there were some rough times at the beginning because unlike long relationships we didn't have the luxury of knowing each others every little nook and cranny but in my opinion I wouldn't have it any other way. I would have been easy if we were just dating to say oh well this ain't gonna work, but we stuck it out and made the best of some bad situations. Now everything is roses (at least most of the time).Love can happen at first sight. But the bigger thing is that marriage is a commitment and a bond much stronger than any long term relationship can ever be. I'm by no means a relationship specialist or a shrink but here are some words of advice for your friend that I can also vouchon:1. surround yourself with other couples...single people (although great friends) can't understand the commitment you have made to each other2. misery does love company so make sure the couples you hang out with are happy too. nothing can put a strain on a new couple like being around two people who seem to hate each other.3. In the words of the late great coach of the Green Bay Packers, Vince Lombardi, "Never, Never, Never Quit" even when it seems like there's no other way. Your commitment is forever and if you are willing to make that commitment your love will be also.Congratulations to your friend and instead of wondering if she is crazy just look at how happy she is and support her decision and wish them the best. estewart 2007-01-04T15:25:48Z