http://www.vouchon.com/tag/commitment/ http://www.vouchon.com/post/not-doing-something-like-that/ 3 weeks? I'm the first post-er to say huh? Crazy would be a good description for someone getting engaged after 3 weeks. The post about the guy getting married within a month and engaged after 5 days - an exception. I realize that when people get older the courtship process accelerates like kobe bryant in the lane of a raptors game, but 3 weeks? Crazy would be a good description, perhaps crazy in love, but still crazy. Might as well go for an arranged marriage if the couples are that desperate for companionship. Ok, in all fairness, if you want to make an assessment (and keep it to yourself) look at your friends age, history, and mentality. Recent break-up? Highly susceptible to infatuation? 20? Now once you come to an assessment, it is your duty as a friend to keep it to yourself and only subtly hint or ask questions if necessary. Let your friend make her own decisions, even if you feel she's going to get screwed (unless he's abusive or sleeps around - and she's not into that stuff). Some people learn that way and all you can do is be supportive while your friends grow. Im not saying to sell-out and sell an opinion that is not yours as that is deceiving. Be diplomatic in your decision-making (don't be jealous, or whatever self-interested reasons may exist) and be diplomatic in what you say. The last thing you want to happen is it not to go through because you decided to call a shot (ie. saying that she's terribly wrong and to 'trust you'). lakers08 2007-01-26T19:44:53Z