originally posted on Thursday, January 04, 2007 3:25 PM
I can vouchon getting engaged after knowing someone for only 3 weeks. My only question is what took her so long? Let me explain!
When I was 22 a friend and I were traveling down a country road one night and a lady friend of his passed by and we turned around and followed her home. We all sat out on the back porch and sipped long island iced tea and just had a great time. The next day his friend came by where I worked to see me and we talked and for the next few nights (five to be exact) we messed around after work. Let me tell you something just clicked. Sure we had fun but it was more than that. On the fifth night we started talking about what we wanted in the future and I casually mentioned that I wanted to marry someone just like her. She very bluntly said, "If your asking the answer is yes." 28 days later were were standing in front of the preacher saying our "I do's".
People that we work with actually took bets on how long we would be married and I don't think any of them guessed over 5 years.
13 Years later we are happily married and I love her more now that the day we met. We have 2 beautiful children and life is just great. And by the way many of the folks that made those bets have since divorced some after several years of marriage. Sure there were some rough times at the beginning because unlike long relationships we didn't have the luxury of knowing each others every little nook and cranny but in my opinion I wouldn't have it any other way. I would have been easy if we were just dating to say oh well this ain't gonna work, but we stuck it out and made the best of some bad situations. Now everything is roses (at least most of the time).
Love can happen at first sight.
But the bigger thing is that marriage is a commitment and a bond much stronger than any long term relationship can ever be. I'm by no means a relationship specialist or a shrink but here are some words of advice for your friend that I can also vouchon:
1. surround yourself with other couples...single people (although great friends) can't understand the commitment you have made to each other
2. misery does love company so make sure the couples you hang out with are happy too. nothing can put a strain on a new couple like being around two people who seem to hate each other.
3. In the words of the late great coach of the Green Bay Packers, Vince Lombardi, "Never, Never, Never Quit" even when it seems like there's no other way. Your commitment is forever and if you are willing to make that commitment your love will be also.
Congratulations to your friend and instead of wondering if she is crazy just look at how happy she is and support her decision and wish them the best.
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